LOVE: THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY

Love has always been a subject that has been discussed only when emotion are involved, but there is apparently a scientific angle to this thing. Well its no a eureka moment and it will never be one coz this whole love thing is more complicated than science, I don’t know how Solomon had a thousand wives. One of the things I believe in is that there is nothing like best friends between a guy and a chic, well for every chic who has ever had the tag of being my best friend at any moment falls in either of the following categories

·         A chic I vibed, things didn’t work so I settled for the second best spot, a friend with the hope that ones day she will realize what she is been lacking or vice versa

·         A chic I still hope things will work out one day

·         A chic who I want to vibe but have never gotten the courage and myt never get it coz the subject is more rocket science than string theory

Having said this lets a sober look at the scientific there is one definition of falling in love. It’s a scientific fact that you cant fall in love in your normal sense. This means some parts of your brain have to be switched off for you to fall in love. In black and white you have to be stupid an idiot to fall in love. This is because each and every person has flaws so unless your mind is not working well, you will definitely see the flaws. Have you ever seen a chic or guy who cannot hold a meaningful conversation for 5 mins 20 minutes but when they fall in love they talk the whole nyt. Did they actually become smart overnyt they may never be smart at any point in life the truth is these two are talking bout some really stupid stuff. But their minds have been switched off so they can notice the difference. The parts of your brain that need to be switched off for you to fall in love are:

      The part that sees the wrong things in other people

      The part that separates crap stupid stories from real conversations

      The part that prioritizes time and decisions

For you to fall in love or into you have to not see the wrong things in the other person, you have to listen to their crap and find it interesting coz u got no choice nyway and you have to spend more time with them irrespective of work n more important meetings. Do you know why when one person is in love and the other is not you hear things like, are you out of your mind?. He he well they are not thinking straight coz the love has disabled some parts of the brain. Smitten couple spends a lot of their time talking and they both have very funny stories, we knew them before and they couldn’t conjure up enough stories or lies to save their faces. What has happened now, well they still talking bout crap but both their minds have been switched off so they don’t notice the difference. If you want proof of this just listen to two newly in love people and you will be surprised how someone can the say something that stupid  problem is that the other will actually find it funny. These cover both the good and the bad.

       Let’s now look at the ugly. While some people may be ugly not be good looking, the ugly part is when the 3 parts that had been switched off to facilitate the falling in love start being switched on by one. First the part that sees the wrong things in other people. Have you ever heared this question “what was I thinking falling for this guy?” he he truth is you are not thinking, your mind had gone on leave. 2^nd part is the one that makes priorities, you suddenly notice that you got more important things to think about, and people more interesting to talk to, than the person who now doesn’t sound fun any more, they never were anyway,. Lastly you wonder how you got there, you are not alone. Nobody ever knows how they got there. And there you have it the scientific definition of love. There is also the emotional definition, which I don’t believe in, and also the spiritual definition so you have a choice to pick which one you would want to be defined by.

QUOTE: Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, simply because we cant proof that something exists doesn’t mean we have proof that is doesn’t. There are known knowns things that we know we know, known unknowns things that we know that we know and unkown unkowns things that we don’t know that we don’t know